EP 66 When Compersion Hits

​A married couple turns pillow talk into reality by inviting a long-time male friend into their bedroom. They talk about the fears they had and  mistakes they made as newbies, and describe when compersion finally hit the wife.  He also talks about a time when a single male turned their MFM into an MMF.

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Guest 0:00
Like it has like a little hole on the end and that's what goes over your clit, honestly, the fastest orgasm I've ever had with a toy. But what got me was when it was time to say goodbye and I was gonna take him to the airport, the hug and goodbye kiss linger just a little bit for my liking. At the time, I wasn't nervous about having sex with somebody else I was more nervous about somebody else seeing me naked.

Guest 0:28
We had the most amazing sex of our entire marriage during those five months. He had me up on the bed was my feet by my ears, and was just like body slamming me. 

Leyna 0:41
Oh, and you're not a pillow princess I mean you're like when you're in you're in?

Guest 0:46
Oh I yeah oh yeah

Leyna 0:49
Oh I like that answer that answer sounds like you actually like really enjoyed it. 

Guest 0:53
Out of the blue. This gentleman went over and started giving me a blowjob. Oh so to all the boys and girls out there that's a major no no not getting consent and it was a surprise. 

Leyna 0:37
Get ready. This is consenting adults

(Podcast Show Open)

Leyna  1:45  
Real quick for bonus content exclusive invites and of course my undying love please go to buymeacoffee.com/Leynanguyen, and find out how you can support this show by becoming a member or by simply making a one time contribution. It's really support from listeners like you that keeps this show going again that's buymeacoffee.com/leynanguyen My guests today are Mr and Mrs Rain, he is 57 was in the transportation industry, she has 56 was in public education, they're both now retired been married for 35 years in the lifestyle for three years, which means they're really enjoying their retirement. Hey you guys up there in Washington does that have anything to do with your name?

Guest 2:34
Oh yeah, yes

Leyna 2:35
It rains a lot up there, what else are you going to do but stay inside and have a little fun. Right, exactly. So you've been married 35 years. That's a long time, but in the lifestyle for only three years, how did this come about?

Guest 2:49
This really did start because we got married so young, we were married at 21 We had our first child at 23 and like a lot of couples you get busy raising kids and you know your sex life kind of takes a backseat, you know my perception was our sexual frequency was not enough. Obviously she felt a little bit differently. 

Leyna 3:13
How often were you guys having sex?

Guest 3:14
Typically one to two times a week, we never went more than two weeks without so from my perspective, I thought we were doing fine, but 

Leyna 3:25
Well and from just talking to other people, Mr rain just let me tell you, that's actually more than a lot of people are getting. 

Guest 3:33
I am aware of that. But again, my perception at the time was that 

Leyna 3:38
Wasn’t enough for you. 

Guest 3:39
Yeah, okay, and in furthermore that there was a problem that you know, either. I wasn't enough or it wasn't, you know, sexy enough, I knew that somehow, you know, there was this real sexual being to be unleashed. I just needed to find out what that trigger was, I bought tons of sex toys in fact, I bought all of her starting like two weeks after we were married. Up until I think you were probably in your 50s before you bought your first one on your own. I was so proud of myself.

Leyna 4:14
Hold on a second, Mrs rain. What did you end up buying yourself

Guest 4:19
I ended up buying that clit sucker one. Oh, yeah, 

Leyna 4:25
So those work by the way?

Guest 4:26
 I loved it.

Leyna 4:28
But, okay, you've got to tell me, I know there's like a large variety of sex toys out there. Describe it to me. 

Guest 4:35
It has like a little hole on the end and that's what goes over your clit and it kind of, it's rumbly, the way they described it on the website is it's like sitting on a giant speaker and rumbles from the inside, and it was honestly the fastest orgasm I've ever had with a toy like 10 seconds, and wow

Leyna 4:58
What was there, is there any sucking sensation?

Guest 5:02
Yeah, a little bit but not a whole lot, It's mainly just like a deep rumble and some women absolutely love them, I'm one of those, some women don't like them. 

Leyna 5:14
Interesting, okay, sorry Mr. We just had to go off on that tangent. Okay so, so you've you've always you buy her a lot of sex toys, it took her like 20 something years to buy her own congratulations.

Leyna 5:59
It still doesn't explain like how the lifestyle thing came up because there are plenty people who open up who want more who do more, who never have sex with other people, like how do you approach that with your wife of 35 years?

Guest 6:13
Well, that all started, you know in this this quest for her pleasure with, You know, we'd have lots of pillow talk and we had fantasy talk while we were having sex and threesomes always came up that became a real fantasy, to have a threesome with another man, because I thought that would be you know what would finally get her over the edge where she would become a sexual being. And would always talk about it and then as soon as you know the orgasms were over would quickly dismiss all of it would never talk about it until you know we went again. But one time we were having one of these fantasy sessions and we were talking about a threesome with another guy and I asked her who should wanted to be with and it was the same person I thought about it was a good friend of mine, somebody that we've both known for over 30 years. Unlike every other time, we kept talking about it the next day we talked about it, our sex life went through the roof. 

Leyna 7:11
So it sounds like the wheels really got moving when you started talking about it outside the bedroom. 

Guest 7:16
Yeah right. Yes, the communication from there just became so wonderful, we can talk about all these things and make a long story short, about a week went by, and I realized that if I didn't do something this opportunity was going to pass this was going to be like all the other times where we would just dismiss it. So I pulled over on the side of the highway one afternoon and I called my friend I said, this can be a little bit weird but, you know, this is what we want to do, and he was taken aback…

Leyna 7:46
What did you actually say to him?

Guest 7:48
Pretty much that I said this is gonna be really weird but, you know, and I were talking and we have this fantasy, Mrs. Rain and I, and we had like you to come he lived out of state. And, you know, spend the weekend with us and fulfill this fantasy, and he was shocked. But he said let me think about it, and I went home and I told Mrs Rain and yo she panicked and only. What did he say and I said well he's thinking about it, and the next day he called me. He goes, Yeah, I booked a flight and I'll be there. Two weeks and, oh, 

Leyna 8:24
So really, all he was thinking about was which airline should I choose

Guest 8:28
Pretty much.

Leyna 8:31
Awesome. So tell me about this first encounter. I mean, I bet you were nervous. 

Guest 8:38
I wasn't nervous about having sex with somebody else I was more nervous about somebody else seeing me naked, you know, number one, I'm in my 50s I had babies. I have C section scars cellulite, wrinkles, you know you're terrified of anybody else seeing your body, and that was scary. 

Leyna 8:59
How about for Mr. 

Guest 9:00
Well, we have some bumps and bruises for that thing and part of the problem was because he was from out of state, we scheduled an entire long weekend a three day weekend. You know the first night, the sexual piece of it was everything I ever imagined it would be it was super hot and you know she had a great time and I got to see her experience this pleasure that I've fantasized about for so long, but then it got awkward, you know, 

Leyna 9:26
Hold on a second foul. Have you heard this show before? 

Guest 9:29
I have but I haven't heard the foul. 

Leyna 9:31
You can't just tell me it was everything you wished it would be, I mean, so this guy is your friend, right, he comes to see you, like you have so, probably many times you get together and what happened?

Guest 9:45
Oh well, Mr rain picked him up at the airport, we had dinner reservations, and so I stayed home and I got myself all looking sexy and pretty. And when they came through the door, I gave them each a hug and a kiss, and he just kind of, you could tell he was really nervous too. Then we went to dinner, our friend and I were sitting on one side of the table and Mr rain was sitting on the other side of the table across from us. During dinner. I very stealthfully took my panties off. Oh, and then reached under the table and handed them to our friend, that just the look on his face was nice. It was the best. we left the restaurant. But Mr Rain had forgotten to get our parking validated. And so he ran back inside to validate parking. The friend and I walked across the street, we kind of leaned up against the building and just started making out. And so he came out and saw us making out, And then you got really turned on, oh yeah it was super exciting. Wow. Yeah. When we got home it was, you know, it was a wild frenzy sexual encounter and.

Leyna 11:00
Okay, that's your second foul second foul So yeah, So yeah got home yeah, how do you get started

Guest 11:09
We were just kissing and tearing off clothes, and we get inside and one of our friends, things that he's never done is he's never had a blow job to completion. I was going to try to fulfill that fantasy for him and so we got in and I got down on my knees and I tried like crazy 25 minutes. Oh, amazing. 

Leyna 11:32
God, you're a trooper.

Guest 11:36
I mean, we change positions and, and he got really close a couple times, Mr Rain stripped down, and he, he got in there so I was

Leyna 11:49
He got in where? What are you talking about?

Guest 11:51
He was, he was, they were standing next to each other and I was giving them both blowjobs. Oh, okay, one after the other. Our friend got tired and I said I need to sit down for a minute. So he sat down in the chair, and then I pulled up between his legs and I kept going like a trooper. And finally, he just said, I don't think this is going to happen this way and so I just got up on my hands and knees and started giving Mr Rain, a blowjob and he came up behind me and did knee doggystyle so we had a spit roast and he lasted about 30 seconds after that, oh, came really hard.

Leyna 12:34
Okay, and I need to hear from Mr first time you're seeing your wife was someone else. Total turn on, right?

Guest 12:40
Yeah, absolutely. It was extremely arousing and, and we were both just extremely turned on, it was, it was fantastic. It was everything I thought it would be.

Leyna 12:51
After the spit rose. He finishes, what do you guys do?

Guest 12:57
This is where it gets a little bit weird so I'll try not to commit my third party foul. Okay, so we were still very amped up, and I actually put her on our kitchen table, I was having sex with her, and he got really withdrawn so you know we lived on this lake and he's over looking at this window my you have a beautiful view here and it's got really distant and we are going at it and I'm like come over here, you know, that's what you're here for. So he, he withdrew. She and I continued to have sex, the rest of the night, I mean we were going out like bunnies all night long and he retired to our bedroom, and the next morning was was really awkward, because we're good friends and you know this thing just transpired and I am talking to him since he was afraid that you know I would have some kind of problem with what had happened the previous day and I was gonna, you know, punch him out of nowhere or something so he was really kind of afraid how would react. We did end up, you know, having additional encounters. Over the next two days, and they were kind of almost forced, you know, is kind of what we're here and we're supposed to do this but just didn't feel right, it was kind of awkward.

Leyna 14:14
And do you think it was because of those feelings that that he wasn't as jazzed up about it that he wasn't as free about it as you guys were?

Guest 14:23
That was my impression and I got my feelings really really hurt, because I thought he really doesn't want me 

Leyna 14:29
Right so you took it personally



Guest 14:30
I did, and we talked about it later. And now, knowing what I know now, sexually, he's very different than we are. He's a one time a night guy and done, and he's not a cuddler is like after he comes he's out. 

Leyna 14:49
So he's very detached from the whole thing.

Leyna 14:53
Okay, but you too were like hey, We found something. 

Guest 14:59
It was probably nine months, but there's something important. I'm sorry to interrupt you, you know, after all of this, I'd watched them having sex and you were talking about how did I feel about it. There were no problems. It was super hot, I liked all of it, I loved seeing her get to experience that he's, he's very well endowed by the way, but what got me was when it was time to say goodbye and I was gonna take him to the airport, the hug and goodbye kiss linger just a little bit for my liking at the time. Oh, and I didn't understand why I would be so jealous about that after what we just experienced, but it got us talking and really was just a continuation of the good communication that we had. 

Leyna 15:42
Did you end up like many couples do online creating the profiles and trying to meet people. 

Guest 15:49
We did, we had the most amazing sex of our entire marriage during those five months 

Leyna 15:56
With just the two of you

Guest 15:57
Just the two of us. It fueled us and we both enjoyed it, and we were in search of other single males, and Mrs Rain at that point, did not think that she could handle seeing me with another woman. So we set up a profile, we met another single male and that one was, that was super awesome it was just the one night, you know, four hours of straight nonstop sex with her being the attention in the center of attention of both of us and it was just amazing. And we knew that that was something that, you know, we would continue to do. 


Leyna 16:33
Now did you do anything different other than the spit roast thing that that all you swingers end up doing?

Guest 16:41
Oh my goodness, I ended up doing things that I had never done before. Like what. Well, Mr Rain was watching this, he calls it the WWE.

Guest 16:57
This guy was, was very special. And he had me up on the bed with my feet by my ears, and was just like body slamming me. Oh, yeah, it was like an all star wrestling move. 

Leyna 17:14
Uh, hold on. Did you know you were that flexible?

Guest 17:16
Um, I knew I was flexible, but I didn't realize until that night, just how flexible. Okay, you know and I know there's lots of myths on it, I can assure you that this is a fact she squirted that night for the first time too super super aroused and it was just a pure sexual awesome experience. 

Leyna 17:39
Well, what else did you do other than that, so, You know she's, you know like over here with Hulk Hogan, what are you doing?

Guest 17:46
At that point I was watching and filming, sorry.

Guest 17:52
But if there was a way to enhance things for her I would if I could assist with, you know her nipples or kissing her, if he was taking her from behind, then she would give me a blowjob vice versa. So we, you know any combination that you could have with a woman we did. 

Leyna 18:11
Did you do the DP DVP thing?

Guest 18:15
No, I think it would be hard for anybody to pull that one off with this particular gentleman. Oh okay. That came later we did not, we've not to either of those for quite a few experiences

Leyna 18:28
Wow you guys are on your way. You guys are on your way. At some point, did you full swap with another couple so you've got a woman involved?

Guest 18:36
We did, there's sort of one more important part of our story that kind of led there we were going down the path of single males and we were with a gentleman that we'd met and we were in our car, of all places again like teenagers, this is rain was giving him a blow job. And, you know, being in the car there wasn't a lot for me to do there. And, you know our pants were all down and all that this was a frenzied moment, but out of the blue. This gentleman went over and started giving me a blowjob. Oh, so to all the, you know, boys and girls out there that's a major no no not getting consent and it was a surprise. And, you know, I didn't know quite how to react but I looked at you know Mrs Rain and she looked at me and you know neither one of us got real panicked and you know she thought it was actually pretty hot. That happened, and I thought about it, and, you know, just kind of just trying to include me and make me feel good I didn't feel like I was being, you know, assaulted or anything it shocked me and I guess he should have asked but we, you know, kind of did that for a few minutes and then he stopped and we finished and you know decided would go ahead and have another date and all that. Mrs Rain and I got to talk about it, and she was okay watching it, I actually thought it was really really hot, it got me extremely turned on. I think that was the first time where she really felt you could separate sex from, you know, a relationship or love. I think she scratched her head a lot on how I could watch her do some of the things that we were doing in the whole compersion thing you hear it a lot in the lifestyle and I think a lot of people kind of miss that but for her it was hard for me to understand how I could derive so much pleasure from seeing her pleasure. And I think that that was the first glimpse she had seen it. I like that, you know, we had that experience and he was having that pleasure.

Leyna 20:40
But from from your perspective, other than saying that your wife enjoys seeing this, how did you feel about it, like, physically did it feel good?

Guest 20:50
Oh of course it did I mean it, you know, yes, the short answer. At first I kind of felt, you know, it was a an assault on my masculinity and you know might have maleness and all that and then I really looked at what the guy was trying to do and, and I was fine with it. That gave us the confidence to reach out to couples, and we got contacted by a really young couple, we did everything we could to try to talk them out of, you know, meeting us, we're old enough to be your parents we get kids your age, you know this is really us you know let that sink in and it's like you're young and attractive. Why in the world are you wanting to be with us, but we met with them, just hit it off right from the start, they were our first couple and to this day continue to be super dear friends we occasionally still get together and play we're not as close as we used to be but as young as they were they mentored us, and kind of still do to this day and got us turned on to some podcasts, we didn't even know we're available to help navigate the lifestyle. 

Leyna 22:02
Nice. You guys also told me that you're both bi friendly and comfortable so I can see like how this is beginning, where are you today. Like have you had experiences with other women, Mrs Rain that we're able to say that okay you're by friendly now. 

Guest 22:16
Oh yeah, I've had a lot of experiences with others. Oh, the first time I'd ever kissed a woman was the first couple that we played with it was so wonderful. I mean, I've never really realized how much I would really enjoy kissing another woman. 

Leyna 22:34
But other than kissing I mean have you like have you had sex with another woman?

Guest 22:38
Yes, I can take it or leave it. When it happens, I really enjoy it, I think, I think for me, it really depends on who the other woman is if I connect with her and I have a friendship with her, then I'm all in. 

Leyna 22:55
And you're not a pillow princess I mean you're like when you're in you're in?
Guest 23:00
Oh I yeah, oh yeah

Leyna 23:02
I like that answer that answer sounds like you actually like really enjoy it. 

Guest 23:06
I do I really enjoy going down on another woman, it's, it's fun, I just, we're both givers. Anytime I can make somebody feel good, that makes me happy. 


Leyna 23:18
Okay so in the three years that you've been in the lifestyle now, what all have you guys done?

Guest 23:22
A lot more single males than single females but we did have the unicorn and that was a fantastic experience. And that was probably the first real time that I understood what Compersion was because I was almost giddy I was so happy that he is getting to have this experience I think partly because he has always been so focused on my pleasure, and making sure experiences are about me, and this was my chance to kind of give back and, yeah, exactly. And I was just so happy that he was finally getting something for himself. At the very end, she brought me into it, then it got really hot.

Leyna 24:12
Well, hell, okay now you're fouling. What do you mean she brought her into it?

Guest 24:14
So she was riding him, and she looked at me and she said, I want you to sit on his face. I'm like, okay, so I got up and I sat on his face, and she played with my breasts and kissed my breasts and kissed me. Yeah, it was really brilliant how she brought Mrs Rain in at the end, yeah it was really nice.

Leyna 24:37
So looking back at the choices that you've made so far did you go down the right road is, was this the right decision to make for you guys. 

Guest 24:47
Absolutely. Oh yeah, even if things don't go well or if there's some bumps or bruises along the way, there's a security and our relationship that we know that we're going to be able to talk through it, we're going to be able to get through whatever it was. And it's not only in lifestyle stuff, it's in all stuff that we know that we have, and we have good communication skills before but they are 100 times better. And we're always amazed how quickly you know when you meet someone in the lifestyle how transparent you can be how honest and open you can be in truly how wonderful these friends are that we've met so absolutely no regrets even for the few little bumps we've had no regrets. It's only made us stronger.

Leyna 25:34
You can connect with Mr and Mrs Rain on Twitter, they're at in_swinging. They're swinging in the rain. Okay, next time on consenting adults, they tried swinging but found that there were too many rules. So they went full tilt cuckolding
Guest 25:52
Made to do whatever we tell them to do. 

Leyna 25:54
But like what I mean like, like go make me a sponge cake or something else?

Guest 26:00
Or get water or suck my dick or take my dick or, you know, let us both use you kind of thing. Like, I enjoy watching him be used as well. 

Leyna 26:09
That’s next time on consenting adults.