Ep 61 Your Husband Did What?!

​A married couple starts exploring both of their bisexuality, with the wife going from being weirded out to being turned on by seeing her husband with a man. Not only does she enjoy watching, but participating with him.  They say the openness and acceptance has not only made their sex life hotter, but it's also enhanced their marriage.

​Guest 0:02
That was a dream come true. A fantasy checked off the bucket list right there and then
Leyna: hold on, hold on. You're going too fast for me. Okay.

Guest 0:14
So when all this like happened when he started like sucking someone’s cock, who is like, like when he's first, like make out with someone like it was very intense and like new and hot, it was just, it was awesome. 
Leyna: Okay, so it turns you on.
Guest: it did.

Guest 0:30
Well when she comes home and she has a cock breath on her and she's got like the like the smell of a condom in her pussy like all of that, like, I mean before she even gets in the door I have a boner already and I'm ready to like jump her bones.

Guest 0:43
I think we attempted to do like what was it DP or something like that.

Guest 0:47
No, it was, I think it was me fucking him in the ass while you were doing something to him or something, but his ass was like tighter than yours or just as tight so like nothing was getting in. 
Leyna: Can we go back to that cock breath thing that you were talking about for a second. Yeah. Um, do you know what cuckolding is?
Guest: yes, yes. 
Leyna: Do you have any of that?
Guest: That time where you and Melissa were 69ing while Dakota was pounding you from behind and I was pounding her from behind, and you're licking her pussy
Leyna: This, is consenting adults!

(Podcast Show Open)

Leyna 1:57
Okay, our next guests are not shy about sharing their experiences so be warned, this episode may be a bit more explicit than the others, and why you're readying themselves for that. A reminder that you can show your support for the show by going to buy me a coffee.com slash Leyna Nguyen got a special shout out this week to Eric Pierce F TW, who's the cherry on top member, and he left this message on my page, Eric said, Love the podcast, especially how you make everyone feel welcome and comfortable in their own skin. My wife and I both late 30s are learning to appreciate the perks of getting older, mainly, not caring what others think. Thanks for all you do. And Eric, thank you for becoming a member on buy me a coffee.com slash Leyna Nguyen we sure love you back. My guest today, are Adam and Kelly, their real names, he's 27, he's in digital advertising she's 28 she's a nurse, they've been together five years married for one year relatively young compared to all the other guests on consenting adults, but they're already in the lifestyle, and they're open to their family and friends, which is very very interesting. First of all, tell me about your relationship, arr your close is it. Do you have good sex is it a good marriage. Why did you open it up?

Guest 3:18
We actually started out as, as, as fuck buddies. Her last semester of college I still had like another two semesters and we were supposed to have a threesome while we were fucked buddies that just never panned out for various reasons. And about a year and a half into our relationship. We started couples therapy, and our therapist kind of gave us or gave me the courage to say, Hey babe, I want to see you suck someone else's cock

Leyna 3:48
Okay, why did you go see a therapist, and were you having problems in your marriage. Why go see a therapist?

Guest 3:53
Oh, why do you get your oil changed? 
Leyna: Okay, so you were being preventative?
Guest: Maintenance because, well, Kelly was in therapy, and she wanted me to sit in with her, so I did and I swear that therapist saw right through me, and I started seeing her for personal and then she recommended couples and we can always improve our relationship we're all human, we're not perfect.

Leyna 4:19
so you're in couples therapy, and it gave you, kind of, it kind of opened the door for you to tell Kelly, what would turn you on, Kelly, what was your response to that?

Guest 4:29
How do you get over a relationship Adam was super jealous, like insanely like green monster jealous so like I still had that, that image of him when he first told me that he wanted to see me suck someone else's cock I was like, Are you are you playing with me. Is this a joke like, Is this a test, but I had to trust them because that was, that's what we learned in there be to trust what your partner says, immediately we started going down this path, to like, eventually led to swinging, so we just both started that journey together.

Leyna 5:01
So then how did you What was your first experience in the lifestyle.

Guest 5:05
it was a threesome with a guy. He is bisexual, like us, we kind of met on a dating app called field, FEELD met for drinks first, and then I think we went back to his place. And I mean it was, it was a lot of fun, the guy turned out to be 
kind of, 


Leyna 5:24
no, no, no, I want to know exactly what happened because, for people who haven't been in that situation yet, like in their head, they can't imagine well how does that start.

Guest 5:36
Do you remember how it started, I mean because like I remember like once we got to his room like I think I dropped to my knees and I started blowing him, and I think you might have been making out with him for a little bit until you started helping me blow him, which was like hot as shit.

Leyna 5:51
Okay, you seen your husband do this before Kelly?

Guest 5:54
No, never, ever in my life when he first told me he was actually like bisexual I was like a little bit like weirded out defensive, and I thought like in my head I thought like he was gonna leave me for another guy, it was just weird. So when all this like happened when he started like sucking someone's cock, who was like, like when he's first, like make out with someone like it was very intense and like new and hot, it was just, it was awesome. Leyna: Okay, so it turns you on? 
Guest: it did.

Guest 6:24
It was strange for me because like, you know, that was my first time sucking a cock in front of my wife, but at the same time, I didn't really like feel comfortable enough to really kind of be like hell yeah I'm gonna suck this cock it was more like I'm going to suck this cock. It had been a while so I guess we got like lost my confidence and cock sucking or something I just, or maybe I forgot my moves, I don't know but.

Leyna 6:49
Okay, hold a second though, when was the last time you'd been with a man?

Guest 6:53
so it had been like two and a half years, year and a half. I'm sorry.

Leyna 7:00
So you hadn't been with a guy. Since you guys met?
Guest: Right, right. Yeah. 
Leyna: Okay. But she knew you were bisexual? 
Guest: Yeah, 
Leyna: You we’re both open about being bisexual?

Guest 7:11
Yeah, cuz like that threesome that we were supposed to have when we were just fuck buddies that was supposed to be with a guy and I actually asked her if she would care if I played with him too. And she told me that was fine, but I never knew at that moment time she was weirded out by it.

Leyna 7:26
Okay so we're in this guy's apartment, You go down on him, the wife starts helping you right. Yep. Then what happened?

Guest 7:35
Uh, I think, we put them on the bed, and I think he got a condom on and you started riding him?

Guest 7:40
Yeah, we started having sex and then I think we attempted to do like what was it DP or something like that

Guest 7:47
No, it was, I think it was me fucking him in the ass while you were doing something to him or something, but his ass was like tighter than yours or just as tight so like nothing was getting in. But so then that failed so then we switch to where he started fucking me oh well I was laying down and Kelly was sucking my dick. And that was a dream come true. A fantasy checked off the bucket list right there and then. 

Leyna 8:17
Wait, hold on, hold on. You're going too fast for me. Okay. Had you done that before, Adam?

Guest 8:23
no never that's like I wanted that to, like I'd never had a threesome before this experience.

Leyna 8:29
Had you had anal sex with another man before?

Guest 8:32
Yeah, plenty times I mean. Funny thing is, in as far back as middle school. You know I've been experimenting since then, with anal sex.

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Leyna 10:15
Okay. Kelly, or you're a trooper. This is the first time you watch your husband blow a guy, and then you're watching him, like, I What is your, I mean, was it still as hot?

Guest 10:32
It was definitely new. It was different, but like in that setting you're so open and like kind of go with the flow and everything, and it didn't like really weird me out, or like scare me or anything it was just like, so erotic, just being in that environment, and like everything felt comfortable, you know?

Leyna 10:52
Okay. And so Adam, you're saying it was like a dream come true so it was really that good for you. Huh?

Guest 10:59
well I mean that that is something that I had kind of always wanted was to be fucked in the ass and get my cock sucked at the same time, but to have my wife doing the sucking was like that much better. So yeah, and then we kind of like transition from that to I think he fucked you doggy, and came I guess but then we all just like kind of cuddled, which is something we really haven't done since, with another partner. And then somehow you like started blowing him again, because you love playing with limp, dicks. And then I joined you and I, and I can honestly say that I think that night we learned that one thing that we really enjoy doing together is sucking a cock together, because it's like it's just so accepting of each other. 

Leyna 11:49
Wow, I didn't know what I was getting into, to talk to you guys. Okay, so was the sex afterward between just you two different after this?

Guest 12:01
Um, I wouldn't say it was different. I thought it was like a little bit better.

Guest 12:04
Yeah, cuz we’re both kind of like still like holy shit, what do we just do and then, like I mean even today after playdates that she goes on and she comes home and she's got like that cock breath or something that I just love so much, where a lot more, I guess like animalistic towards each other, and like just raw, in more ways than one, but we're just a lot more like built up and like, you know, does that make sense?

Leyna 12:30
Of course it does. I hear couples say it all the time that the sex between just the two of them is just more intense, and you also feel closer, which could also make sex more intense.

Guest 12:41
Well, I think a lot of that comes from the communication because like communication brings you closer together, especially when you can, you know like if you can say hey I really want to see you suck a cock, or you know like, you can talk about how you want things differently during sex, I feel like that really opens up the doors for what else can you talk about I mean, 
Leyna: can we go back to that cock breath thing that you were talking about for a second? Yeah. Um, do you know what cuckolding is?
Guest: Yes, yes. 
Leyna: Do you have any of that? 
Guest: Um, I think, to a point, but we don't like the degradation part of it.

Leyna 13:16
Okay, well, but everything there's a, there's a spectrum, right. Yeah, so like on the very far end, there's, you know humiliation and degradation and who knows what else. And then there's you know, on the other end, there may be just like, you know, cucking. Yeah, but the fact that you 1. like knowing that she was with someone else, like smelling someone else on her just sounds like it might be, you know, cuck light huh? 
Guest: Yeah, what do you what do you think about that babe?

Guest 13:47
Yeah absolutely and I do think you tend to be on the lighter side of that dynamic, which is a dynamic that we do have.

Guest 13:55
Yeah, we do mostly play separately because Kelly works nights, and I work days, most of our experience in the lifestyle is separate from one another. But in terms of the cucking experience like there was one time where she actually filmed something for me. Well, the guy filmed it, but he didn't understand that not every cuck situation needs to include degradation, but I don't really know if it was discussed prior either, And it's like such a hot video, if, if I watch it on mute, with no sound on. Like the guy is like, I don't, I mean it's been so long but I don't even know what he's saying anymore, because I haven't watched it with the sound on and so long but.

Leyna 14:39
And then there are some people who wouldn't be able to watch it just quiet they want to hear it, you know they want to be talked down to they want to be, you know, humiliated, so. And that's the wonderful thing about this is that we've learned, you know there's something for everybody. 
Guests: Yes. 
Leyna: And, and it's, you know, you don't yuck anyone’s yum. 

Guest 14:59
Exactly, I mean, there definitely is something for everyone. I mean even stuff that I'm not into I found myself watching, whether it's on Reddit or Twitter.
Leyna: like what like what 
Guest: Scat, I'm not into that, and I think I watch it more from like a non judgmental, but more like, oh that's interesting, but I wouldn't really want to do it and it's not going to get me off I think it's just the idea of like people being open minded is a turn on for me like a big turn on.

Leyna 15:26
Well, I'm just gonna tell you this, the fact that you're even willing to watch is much more open minded than a lot of people. Yeah, so I'm not that open minded, open minded,

Guest 15:37
well it's definitely not for everyone, I mean like in, for example, one of the porn stars I guess you could say, well, she is a porn star. She's newly getting into scat, but she also does a lot with like, throw up and stuff, which I cannot do throw up at all, but it's just like it's so interesting to see, like, different people have different interests, you know what I'm saying and I'm not coming out to mean like, oh, that's disgusting.

Leyna 16:01
Yeah, kinda. Not really, no. Okay, so we're gonna get off that topic, and get back to you guys. Okay so, then you've discovered that hey this is something really powerful, really, it sounds like because not only do you enjoy it. Not only are your fantasies coming true, but it has brought you guys even closer together right, yes. Yeah, definitely. When Kelly goes out on a separate play date, and she comes home. Does she ever jump straight into the bed with you?
Guest: Yeah, like every time basically yeah. 
Leyna: What do you enjoy about that?

Guest 16:37
Well, when she comes home, she has a cock breath on her and she's got like the like the smell of a condom in her pussy like all of that, like, I mean before she even gets in the door I have a boner already and I'm ready to like jump her bones even. So I think it's just the fact that she's well I enjoy my wife being a slut. I think that is like hot as fuck. And it's just kind of accepting of like who I am too because like I enjoy cock, probably not as much as she does, but to a good extent, but it's just like accepting.

Leyna 17:05
Kelly is also bisexual. How often are you with women Kelly/

Guest 17:11
Oh my god, trying to get with women, is the most difficult thing in the world like I totally understand men in that regard, like, I like I was telling my husband like I felt more comfortable going on a dating site and interacting with men is way more easier for me than interacting with women because I don't know men, I know very well, but this biside of mine has just recently like come out and it's, it's like a learning a whole new species on how to talk to women, it's just really difficult. I have found it very hard. So usually when I only interact with women it's in a couple settings. Yeah, like a full swap scenario like well,

Leyna 18:01
a full swap would be, wait a second, so when you guys do the full swap Is it male with male female with female.

Guest 18:07
I mean it could be, but typically the stereotypical full swap is where you just swap partners so

Leyna 18:14
right but But you said that the only time that she really does female is in a full swap.

Guest 18:20
The typical like swinger for definition of a full swap is you swap opposite partner spouses. Now, a lot of the time that can also include the women playing together. And then, like the men joining in eventually.

Leyna 18:35
You know how Adam gets turned on, knowing that Kelly has been with someone else smelling someone else on her. Kelly, do you have that with Adam?

Guest 18:48
Uh, It’s a little bit different. So, I, I don't think I have a strong reaction as he does to me

Guest 18:55
like my first time playing without you. It was with another female, and I come home and you wanted nothing to do with me like you didn't even let me hug you, or anything.

Guest 19:06
Yeah, it has since grown into a more positive reaction, But when he first started doing that I, I guess I was just really jealous, and like that's that's how I saw the situation, and I just started shutting down like I didn't want to acknowledge it, I just I wanted him to like come home shower immediately and brush his teeth and all that stuff. So, it, it has improved 
Leyna: Interesting 
Guest: But, like, it has taken me a while to get to that point.

Leyna 19:37
If I asked you guys what is like the hottest situation, you guys have gotten yourselves into would the answer be the same for both of you guys?

Guest 19:45
For me it was, it was a threesome, it was a female male male threesome. And my husband was there, present. 
Guest: When he came in my mouth?
Guest: I don't remember.
Guest: Was it the Latino looking guy. 
Guest: No, no, it was one of our first threesomes, it was that guy Nick

Guest 20:03
Oh with a thick cock? Yeah, okay. Yeah that definitely wouldn't be my answer.
Guest: That’s your answer? 
Guest: No, I said it definitely would not be my answer.
Guest:, oh, it would not be yours. Oh, okay. So what's yours?

Guest 20:14
I think maybe that time were you and Melissa was 69ing while Dakota was pounding you from behind and I was pounding her from behind, and you're licking her pussy. Okay, cuz like we went like three hours at night, the four of us. 
Guest: We did, 
Guest: And I think you popped her bisexual cherry too. That night, I think that's probably my hottest experience. But in terms of playing alone. I think it was when I went to a guy's house and played alone with him, I mean he was really good with his mouth really good with his mouth, it was amazing. Like I was shaking. It was so good.

Leyna 20:50
Now, I’ve asked a lot of people this who've had bisexual experiences, Adam, do you find that men are better at oral than women?

Guest 20:58
I mean it definitely depends because like until I met Kelly like the best blow job I had was from a guy. I think everyone's different, because much like any other type of pleasure you really have to be able to read your partner what they like and don't like, and then be able to perform what they like and maybe even introduced something new things that they've not had before, that they are going to like. 
Leyna: And Kelly?

Guest 21:25
Women do know the anatomy a little bit better but I've only had very limited experiences with women. And so far, the men have kind of like beat the woman for sure, like, the best guy who's ever given me oral. We had a threesome with.
Guest: Nick?
Guest: Yeah, oh yeah.

Leyna 21:46
Do you guys see yourselves like this is it like this is just your lifestyle I mean could you ever go back to a monogamous marriage? 
Guest: Is it something you would even want?

Guest 21:59
a complete monogamous marriage? I do not think so I don't think I would ever go back to that. 
Leyna: Do you agree Adam?

Guest 22:05
I mean I don't think I would want to either. I mean, it's a lot of fun I mean it's a lot of work being non monogamous, but it's, it's worth it so far.

Leyna 22:15
Okay, you guys kind of documenting all these new things that you're learning in your own podcast right?

Guest 22:20
yes. The Naked relationship podcast. 
Leyna: And where can people find you?
Guest: Our website is the naked relationship dot com and then we've got a place on there for all of our links where you can find us.

Leyna 22:33
Thanks, Adam and Kelly for being so open and honest about your experiences. Okay, next time on consenting adults complete newbies start going to a sex club, and see things they've never thought they see, and experienced quite the opposite of what they thought that experience.

Guest 22:50
And then this other woman who we don't know how to talk to whatever she walks up drops down on her knees right in front of me like to join my wife and give me a blowjob. And my wife just about nearly slit this woman's throat so

Guest 23:04
I was like no. Yeah, interesting. 
Leyna: That’s next time on consenting adults.