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They married as high school sweethearts but got curious about what it's like to be with other people. After 7 years of monogamy, these young swingers found they like group sex, orgies, and some BDSM that includes choking. She also has a praise kink and is bisexual.
EP 50 - Young Swingers
00:00:01 - 00:05:17
I've always wanted to know what it would be like to be with a girl. But we've been together since we were fifteen so I never sought that out or was able to ever experienced that I am bisexual now. Heat wave we were like. Are you fucking. That's exactly. I remember to and I was like yeah. That's what we said we were doing. Then you started fuck. Yeah I was like. Oh okay and I said well I guess we should start thinking and so I remember like fucking Bella choking her while the other girl was kind of eating her out and then kind of going back and forth between her and Bella and that was a kind of newer thing for me because I was also choking her when I was fucking her because she liked it. Was it a turn on for you. We've done dp like me. And a girl and her and another guy her partner. I personally haven't been de. Whoa wait hold a second so it was you and another girl in another guy. Yes so I had a strap on on. And so I was fucking her with the strap on get ready.
This, is Consenting Adults.
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Leyna: My guests today are Bella and Jase. They are both in the medical field high school sweethearts. Who say they stumbled into swinging about Seven years into their monogamous relationship. They say that while they were together while they were monogamous they shared every new experience. Strictly with each other while. You're talking about these new experiences that you shared with each other only together. What are we talking about?
Guest: So that we just need. We were virgins. We had only had sex with each other. We were each other's first kiss. He never even held hands with anybody. Everything was each other's. I everything really.
Leyna: Who was the first. Bring up the idea of what it would be like to be with other people.
Guest: It was me so I was just curious what it would be like to even kiss somebody or to anything with anybody. And that's when. I went up to Jase. I just asked hey. Have you ever even thought what it would be like to do anything else with anybody where you ever curious. Obviously I kind of wondered. I didn't ever feel like I needed anything like that at all. But I think whenever you've only done with your partner and you've been so young. I think everyone's a little bit curious. To what else is out there in. Just what are the options. I guess.
Leyna: Now Bella when you brought the subject up where you at all concerned at how he may react.
Guest: I wasn't because we have always been so open with each other. And very trusting and honest in every single part of our relationship so prior to win. I asked him. I went through a pretty major weight loss and so I had a really big confidence shift. I would say if I would have asked that maybe two years before the moment I did it would have been a different story. I think I would have been more not worried or afraid but just maybe too insecure to know what that answer would be. I knew that he loved me. And I know that no matter what it was. Just a curiosity thing.
Leyna: okay. So then how did you get started?
Guest: It kind of fell into our lap. I guess I can say the very first time was. We went on a spring break trip during college. And whenever we I went I said would you be up for you. Know even kissing somebody. We hadn't even danced with anyone of the opposite jet. Yeah I mean every single thing. I mean we were so sheltered is not the word but we were just so naive to everything all we knew as each other so I mean we never. I think a lot of people have that they date in high school. They experiment in college end. We never did any of that because we just did everything together. And so that time whenever we did go to spring break We were open to the idea. And that was the first time that I had kissed another guy and on that trip. Jase didn’t do anything with anybody and then that was the first time I kissed a girl too but we didn't have any like a swinger experience at that point so that was just kind of your first taste of things.
Leyna: At what point did you actually say. Okay let's do this.
Guest: We weren't trying to make anything happen at all but we said if somehow we were to find the right couple or the universe where just to throw this into our laps somehow than we were open to the mindset of okay but you know that you actually have to go out there and look for it right with us.
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We really didn't I guess the closest thing for looking what happened to us is we were in Las Vegas. The next year after spring break and we went to a topless pool and Bella had never been topless before and so that was of just a step in that sexual direction and that day it was kind of not very busy and Bella was the only one topless. I remember taking her like an hour to even be comfortable. Being that way in a couple ended up coming up in approaching us and just started talking because this girl came in she was the only other topless girl in the pool and they were our age and and at this point we didn't know but lifestyle was even a thing we thought. Is this just open relationship. Like is this swinging. We really had no idea. We didn't know about clubs or anything like that. Not really at least and so then. Whenever we went to that topless pool in Vegas and they came over they just happened to say that they were interested in that kind of thing to and so it was just really crazy how it all happened but I guess long story short we did end up doing a full swap with them that next day and it was their first time ever doing that. Our first time ever doing that and it was really enjoyable and so we just we never looked back ever since we can go into more detail about that. Just didn't know how much do you tell you.
Leyna: Have you listened to the show before. Go back, let’s go back so I mean. Was it like a double date that ended up really wild.
Guest: It started off by. We were going to get into the strip club for free and we also had never been to a strip club. Yeah so we went to the club and we invited them that night. They ended up having some friends. Who lived kind of around and they remember that they had a prior engagement so they had to leave and then we said okay. Well you can always come back and hang out with us. You know later in the evening after we go to the strip club so they went off and did their thing. We went to the strip club. And whenever me and Bella got back to a room we were just so horny about the whole idea of anything like this possibly hopping that me and her had sex and then they ended up coming back to our hotel later that night and we had same room sex with them later. That night and didn't really do anything with each other but were just there next to each other in. I remember kissing her and that was the first time I had ever kissed somebody else. And that was kind of the end of play for that night so we asked them if they would want to stay one more night and get a hotel room together and just kind of see how the next night went all right.
Leyna: How did the next night go.
Guest: There was two beds. You heard what bad and me and him took one bed and we were just so at this point we had swapped partners and we were just kissing each other and then and of course before all of this we had talked about how he would be okay with what we were comfortable with and I remember he. And I were making out. And then we over and then he we were like. Are you guys fucking. That's exactly what we said we’re doing. Then you started fucking yeah I was like oh okay and I said well I guess we should start fucking and so then we started. Having sex there. We were completely full swapped and really enjoyed it and we did a few times that night.
Leyna: Oh you Young people you young ones .
Guest: I know how many chances of this like we said. We didn't know that the lifestyle was a thing we didn't know how difficult this was to find her. There was there was clubs or anything like this is kind of our one chance possibly to do this. Plus just enjoy the night and meanwhile had both had going into this. Our relationship was the obvious priority of this whole experience and so we said if for some reason we were to do this and absolutely hate it than we were going to move forward and let it be something that was in the past and just never mentioned it again. We both loved it. And so that's our still after seven years.
Leyna: What did you love about it. I mean take me back to your full swapping for the first time right. You're in the same room on separate beds. Are you checking each other out or are you so like thrilled that you're having sex with someone other than the one person that you weren't paying attention?
Guest: That wasn't it at all it was so still to this day seven How many years like seven yes. Seven years into this It's still crazy that our favorite part of doing it is being able to look at each other and connect with each other and see that each other is enjoying what's going on and I don't know how but it's just very sexy to be seeing him doing things with other people in then same with you in me and it's just I remember locking eyes being you okay like doing hand signals like you.
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Okay are you sure. I was like all you look so hot this is so fun you look so good for me whenever I was doing it of course I was paying attention to the partner I was with but I feel like it was almost half and half I was like oh this is so fun like I hope Jase is having so much fun. He looks like he's having so much fun. So it's making me have more fun. It was fun of the newness of a new part of the experience and then fund in this newness of being able to see her with somebody in like she said lock is still feel this really strong connection even in this totally new environment. Not jealousy jealousy. Not one bit so happy for her.
Leyna: So you had this great weekend. Did you ever see this couple again?
Guest: We did it because it ended up. I think they wanted more of a poly-amorous relationship and they wanted us to be their only couple that they ever did not share anything. Leyna: Like they wanted you exclusively.
Guest: Yeah after he left so we were driving home from las Vegas over this long talk. We are talking about how great everything was how much we enjoyed it. And we are saying that. We're both interested in doing it again. And then we got a text message from them and we have to think that they were living in a completely different state than us. I mean twenty four hours away and then the first thing they texted us was about wanting to be exclusive and yes for us. It's always about the love through each other in the rest of is this funding to do and we don't ever any interest in having relationships anybody else besides just friendships and so that kind of especially being so new to it kind of put us off a little bit just because we felt out of the right word for that but we didn't feel comfortable since we had just started this journey and they wanted to be in this committed relationship type thing right
Leyna: So really like any relationship right and when you're new and someone is asking you to be exclusive. It can be a little uncomfortable.
Guest: We'd never experienced that. 'cause we were each other's first boyfriend girlfriend so I mean even we'd never dated. We never knew what that was even like. So we've experienced that together for the first time.
Leyna: Okay so what all. Have you guys experienced since I started.
Gust: So we've done soft swabs. Full slop slop at clubs. We've died alter how are gonna other parties we've had orgies. We had an orgy on a vanilla cruise, that was kinda crazy. Wev’ e so much.
Leyna: Mfm ?
Guest: yep we've done mfm's in group settings because that is one thing that it's not that we are uncomfortable with. but we're not as big into either threesomes. But we really like having threesomes in. Maybe an orgy setting or a couple setting a foursome setting.
Leyna: It sounds like it because it's a little more intimate when it's just a three son. I'd like a lot of stuff going on. But nothing against threesomes. I mean I love threesomes. Just if we had to choose one or the other we prefer group sex over threesome we will have if a threesome kind of fell in our lap but normally whenever were meeting people at say it's online at were looking for couples or group settings we don't ever seek out those are not anymore of right.
Leyna: How about a other sexual activities. So we're not talking about the number of partners but we're talking about that. Maybe you haven't done before like the you know the all the other continents the dvp and dp and whatever else.
Guest: We've done dp like me and a girl and her and another guy her partner. I personally haven't been dp’d. Hold a second so it was you and another girl and another guy?
Guest: Yes so I had a strap on on and so I was fucking her with strap on while her partner was also fucking her. But I personally haven't done that. I haven't had that done yet.
Leyna: Is there any interest?
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Guest: I want to but I like pleasuring more than receiving and so I want to dp just because I want to try but it turns me on more to be a part of doing it rather than getting it done to me.
Leyna: Interesting okay Jase, Do you have any maybe any fantasies you haven't fulfilled yet.
Guest: You know. I really feel like we have done most things at this point. There's positions that we've seen that. I guess that's like a constantly updating lists because we'll just watch porn together and be like oh the next time we have a foursome. We should remember to try to be in this position. So just play in general. I feel like we've done a lot of the things that were fantasies that we hadn't done in the past.
Leyna: What's what's off the table.
Gueste: I personally don't like anal so we don't do anal. I know some couples like to take pictures. Even faces aren't in them We don't do any pictures, we will only play with condoms. so that's another. If someone wanted to not use those. We’re not comfortable with that. We don't do separate like I wouldn't go play by myself on a random day and then you be at home so everything we do we do together. We don't necessarily have to be in the same room but just in the same vicinity.
Leyna: Okay of of all your experiences What sticks out in your mind. What's like that one really hot situation.
Guest: There's so many. I think that my favorite grouping people is I like three girls with two is and we hadn't experienced a while back that we just really got there was a single girl. Mia Bella and another couple and we just really got along with all them really well. Our personalities meshed sexually. We really meshed really well. Also I remember that night just being so much fun and there's so many fun positions we feel like because I said we like those three some type positions in group settings so I remember mean Bella had started she likes a little bit more dominant just with us and so choking had never really been a thing on something we had done and we started incorporating that into our relationship home one of the girls that we were with was really into that too and so I remember like fucking Bella and choking her while the other girl was kind of eating out and then kind of going back and forth between her and Bella and that was a kind of newer thing for me because I was also choking her when I was fucking her because she liked it.
Leyna: Was it a turn on for you.
Guest: Yeah I did. Because originally. I wasn't too big into it because I felt over almost like over-dominant but when I realized that Bella was getting so much pleasure out of it it made me start to enjoy it more and I can tell obviously bellows enjoying it and the other girl was as well seeing that they were both turned on by it. Made me enjoy it more.
Leyna: Okay Bella you've got to explain this to me explain which part the choking in what is it. What what do you like about it.
Guest: It's a dominance thing for sure. I I like being dominated. I guess that's the word but we're not huge into the BDSM scene or anything. But I just like being taken control of consensually so I don't know why I like it but I just do and it’s not anything where I can't breathe. It's like you kind squeeze on the side so it just cuts it off a little bit where you can still breathe
Leyna: Because what you're talking about is all in your head as far as being dominated right but the actual physical thing itself of being choked is there a physical feeling in it that feels good?
Guest: Yeah I think it's the not cutting off the circulation a little bit because they're being dominant on me so they're controlling that what I like.
Leyna: Okay so have you tried like spanking yet.
Guest: Yes, But I don't like spankg that much-- I like it. I think it's cute and fun. But it's not something that we incorporate during play. It's more a foreplay thing okay.
Leyna: So you'd like choking more than you like spanking.
Guest: And it's also interesting. Well I guess that goes part with it too but recently I've learned that I have something called a praise kink --if I'm called a good girl or saying oh just like that, you're doing so good like --I like when you suck my dick like this or when you do this so things like that. So really turns me on. I don't know if the choking is part with that but that is also more of a dominant thing like. I just like being more submissive. But I feel like when. I'm with a woman I like to be more dominant. Oh. true. yeah so it's a…
Leyna: Did you know you were bisexual.
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Guest: I've always wanted to know what it would be like to be with a girl but we we've been together since we were fifteen. So I never sought that out or was able to ever experienced that but I definitely anti-sexual now in how Jase I'm not bisexual at all. I think they said there's nothing against it. And I think so. It was fun if I was that way just because everyone can play together. But it's just never. I don't get any sort of sexual gratification or turned on by that.
Leyna: Any last thoughts on what finding the lifestyle has done for your relationship.
Guest: I think that it's brought us so much closer still to this day every that we have an experience we just feel so much of this love and connection and when we have somebody else it makes us realize how much more we appreciate each other in. How no one else can ever make up for what we have with each other like our communication has become even so much better and so it really has just help to grow us to be the best versions of ourselves. We can be in the best couple that we can be for each other.
Leyna: If you'd like to hook up with them you can find them at 4ourplay dot com. That's the number 4ourplay dot com. Next time on Consenting Adults a doctor and his wife who's also in the medical field start reading fifty shades of grey open up their marriage and find fifty shades of heyyyyy.
Guest: When I'm doing. Dvd p with her. It's not just her vagina that I'm in contact with obviously I'm in contact with the other man and you start to discover that penis to penis contact provides a certain level of stimulation that you're not used to. Even if I'm doing it with her and I'm not seeking out that alone but when I'm having sex in a threesome deriving pleasure from that I have a hard time reconciling saying I’m straight alone so I am open minded. I'm not looking for a bisexual relationship with a man but as it pertains to having sex in a group setting, I'm not opposed to contact. That's next time on Consenting Adults.
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