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Meet Turk and Irina. The lifestyle found them! An interracial couple discovers swinging after the husband gets propositioned by a couple. Turk and Irina love sharing the lifestyle with those who are curious and have a way of finding unicorns. They're also the couple that drove 10 hours to give the Sextons from episode 8 their first lifestyle experience.
EP 21 – Married Interracial Swingers
Leyna: It's Christmas week 2020 Merry Christmas everyone or Happy Hanukkah, whatever you and your family are celebrating hope you have a safe and happy and healthy holiday season. Now before we get to today's guests. I want to give a huge shout out to a band by the name of defenestration Defenestration look them up, they're a rock band from Highland California, very, very talented and they're young, too. But they wrote and play the theme music for Consenting Adults podcast defenestration look them up on Facebook or Twitter, especially if you like rock music, and they do great 80s cover songs so they're a great band look them up, they're also on Instagram so Defenestration thank you so much for doing our music for us we totally love you. Alright. Today's guests are an interracial couple from Georgia, and they tell me they weren't looking for the non-monogamous lifestyle. It found them.
Guest: Next thing you know, he approached me. He said, hey, my wife finds you very attractive, and she wants to know, if you will fuck her to that. Wow, It's just like that.
Leyna: Get ready. This is Consenting Adults.
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Leyna: My guest today have been together for seven and a half years been in the lifestyle two years. He is 48 years old. Turk is former military and law enforcement. She is 37 years old Irina has worked in retail management for quite some time. And she's Russian, and he is black, you are an interracial couple in the lifestyle. Yes. Do you run into many others.
Guest: I mean we do there, definitely aren't as many as we would like for there to be since, you know, it is our preference but we definitely, you know, don't just gravitate towards people that are exactly like us.
Leyna: Now, are you guys, married or you've just been together for seven and a half years.
Guest: Well we actually were supposed to get married back in April, and then COVID happens we had a less big as wedding plans, there was going to be a lifestyle, friendly event and everything and then of course we have to cancel it.
Leyna: What's a lifestyle friendly event for a wedding. What does that mean.
Guest: So we had our friends that we're going to fly out to Vegas with us who are also in the lifestyle and the bachelor and bachelorette parties, we're going to actually include all of us going out together to a swinger club, and checking out some local lifestyle scenes, you know, for fun, Before we were actually going to say I do and I mean Turk we're going to get married on Friday and then our friends, we're going to get married on Saturday.
Leyna: Okay, so it's going to be this big event, and COVID happened and so now you're going to have to delay it right, yes. How has the How has COVID affected you guys in the lifestyle, I'm pretty sure that it's kind of put a big damper on it.
Guest: It definitely. Well it definitely put a big damper on it but it's, it puts us in a different direction, which is on Twitter, we decided to have a virtual meet and greet, on Twitter, so that's basically, meeting different people in the lifestyle, via Twitter.
Leyna: Right, but you were meeting people how before that ?
Guest: meet and greets.
Leyna: Okay, so you do you not go on these lifestyle websites like so many couples do?
Guest: There weren't as many people from our local areas that you know we were finding on those websites so we just started hosting our own parties and our own get togethers locally and of course, traveling to nearby locations in hopes of meeting other people who live closer to us and exchanging information and then keeping in contact, Letting them know, hey, next time we're having a party, you guys invite your friends, let's make it a big weekend. So that kind of helped us branch out and meet a lot of people in a lot of different places. And so during the summers is when we specifically host a lot of these get togethers because it's great you can you know swim at the pool you can have some nice drinks and it's nice and hot outside, or we'll go to like a lifestyle resort with a big group. But yeah, definitely COVID kind of killed all of that, we've been super careful. And so we've only interacted with a very very very minimal amount of people this summer, but we still had our fun but we definitely turned to Twitter for a majority of our entertainment, and we have been investing our time into creating these digital lifestyle personas who we are in real life but just out there for a larger audience.
Leyna: Right. Oh, where are you guys what state are you in?
Guest: We're in Georgia.
Leyna: That's right. You're from Savannah, Georgia, yeah. And so when we have these get togethers, how far are people coming from, do I mean is it just your, your local area or do you get people who come in from other states?
Guest: oh we definitely have people that come from other states. We have people that come from Alabama. We have people that come from North Carolina, South Carolina, from all over Georgia we have a lot of friends in Atlanta and they will always make the drive, of course, Florida is very conveniently located because right along 95 So Jacksonville Orlando, all of those places, it's a, it's a very doable drive when you really want to meet up with some awesome people.
Leyna: So you guys have been together for seven and a half years but you've only been in the lifestyle two years, had either of you ever been in non-monogamous relationships before getting together?
Guest: No, no, actually not. I've been, I've been very open minded about things like I have had friends who were in the lifestyle before or were you know just ethical non non monogamy. As I was raised to be very nonjudgmental and very open when it comes to just, you know, sexuality and what people find interesting, being from another country I definitely didn't fit into the same box that most of you know my American peers. And, you know, Turk has been a world traveler he's traveled all all over the world and so he's his views are definitely more open minded, but we never were with people that were like that until we met each other.
Leyna: Turk. Have you been with other women who were open to the idea.
Guest: Oh no, no, no, I found my charm without Irina.
Leyna: Now, knowing that you're open minded, but not, you know, finding a partner who is the same, can you kind of describe how difficult or maybe frustrating that was for you. Guest: Well, I wasn't really looking for that type of partner before this, this found us so I wasn't looking for that partner that was because I don't even know about the openness that the lifestyle has to offer, until I got into it.
Leyna: Well, wait a second. How the heck did the lifestyle find you guys.
Guest: Okay. I was a manager at a local restaurant sports bar. And when I started working there, the employees told me they said hey Turk, you might get approached by swingers because they usually come here to have dinner and you know dreamt I was like, okay, but whatever. Well, a couple of months went by, and sure enough one lonely night I was playing pool, working, but I was playing pool, and, and a couple cavemen. The lady was dressed very provocative and the husband was sat down at the table. Was he looked around, and then she went back towards him. Next thing you know, he approached me. He said, hey, my wife finds you very attractive, and she wants to know, if you were fuck her tonight. Wow, it's just like that.
Leyna: And what was your reaction.
Guest: My reaction was, I was shocked, I was like whoa I said I appreciate the gesture and that she would find me attractive I said but I can't do that. I said but however, I would like to get some information on what you're doing. So I got the information he gave it to me he was a little upset that I didn't want to be with his wife.
Leyna: Now hold on a second. So then let me ask you if you were interested in the information, Was it just because you weren't attracted to her.
Guest: That's correct.
Leyna: Okay, and then not only that but I hadn't talked to Irina, this was a night at work I definitely wasn't going to go and jump in the hotel room without her. How's that work. Good man, good man. Yes. So, when you ask for information and you said he gave it to you. What did he give you I mean as I go one 800 Swingers, what's the
Guest: first of all, he said this is a site where a lot of swingers are, and you can meet people in your local area and see who's in, you know, see who's doing what.
Leyna: And so you went you went home and,
Guest: well, I went home and went on to get on the website and then I talked to Irina about it. And I said, Okay, what do I really want to take over from here.
So he came home and he just kind of presented the whole situation because of course he's very upfront with anything. I'm not really a jealous type person so for him to tell me that a woman, you know, wanted to sleep with him I was just like, oh okay, I mean I can understand why.
I saw you I want the same thing.
She told me all of that and my reaction to it was like Well hey let's check it out I just never thought that'd be something that you'd be interested in, and we talked and he said you know he wanted to give it a shot and we already had a trip planned to Atlanta to go to football games because we're both big football fans and our teams were playing each other. And I had a one of my friends who I already kind of knew was very, very open with her sexuality and we've had a few conversations and I knew that she was from Atlanta so I messaged her and I was like hey you know we're going to Atlanta, is there anything you know, there's this club that we found online, it's a swingers club. Have you ever been and she just said oh my god it's phenomenal. It's amazing you will love it, you should totally go check it out. And so for her deal to just kind of hype it up to me that even though we were not experienced and we didn't know what we were doing that it was still going to be a good environment for us to have fun in that. We just got to like, Okay, well let's go so we planned that while we were in Atlanta on this trip and we're gonna go check it out. And we got there and we were kind of intimidated as far as just course like everybody is and you get some anxiety going and you just kind of try to figure it all out, so I mean we watched like several YouTube videos, listen to several podcasts all leading up to this to help ease our anxiety just decided, you know, I mean, what's the worst that can happen, you know, we can still have sex with each other, we will get to have sex in front of other people which is not something we've ever done before. So at the end of the night, we would still leave with a new experience under our belt, and we're still together so that's you know that's great so we just decided to go into the playroom so we started having sex just me and Turk and we were just, you know, really caught up in the moment we were having a great time. And people kind of started gathering around and watching and so then we really got excited we're like oh man, people are paying good sense and so we really started getting into it and then a couple just kind of walked up to us sit down and you know they asked because of course within the lifestyle you always ask you get a verbal consent for anything and everything which is what we absolutely love about the lifestyle.
12:36 And so they flat out just ask hey would you guys like to play with each other, you know, would you want one to swap and we kind of looked at each other, we're like, why not. This is why we train, and we just went ahead and went into a full swap right then in there and had an incredible time and seeing Turk another woman really like just did it for me, I was like, oh my god this is incredible. This is an angle that I never get to see. So now I was like, like, is this what we look like it's like this is hot. This is really, Really great. And it was just such an exhilarating experience that, you know, after it was all done like we exchanged numbers we talked, they were really super friendly. We came back to the hotel room and all day Sunday we just stayed in bed and cuddled and talked about how amazing it was, and that reconnection part after our lifestyle event which is what we learned that that's what it's called. That's really what feels because you feel so empowered that you just went through something so monumental, and something that a lot of couples can't do without problems, you know, when in their relationship. And here we were, and we were more in love with each other, we were happier with each other, we couldn't get enough of each other, we just literally stayed in the room and had sex all day. It was, you know, it was just, it felt so good, and we're just like, okay, yeah, I think we want to do this. That's how we jumped in.
Leyna: Yeah, Turk, how did it. How did it feel seeing your woman was someone else was there any jealousy.
Guest: No, um, it was all mutual, I was pretty cool with it. It was actually pretty hard to see, as hard to explain but it was very sexy. It was very odd thought that, you know, of course before all this I would have a problem but I didn't at all. It was very sex the end, it's always been the exhibitionists, we found our calling.
Leyna: So you didn't know that about each other or about yourselves before all this,
Guest: um, I've always been adventurous and, as you know, ever since getting you'll be getting into a relationship with Turk I've always kind of pushed him to be adventures, and then he started started getting creative and he's you know constantly trying to think of new ways we really do give each other room to grow and develop because we didn't have that in our past relationships to where we constantly wanted the other person to continue to become a better and more, you know, happier version of themselves, and you know we're not trying to put each other into a specific box and say well this is who I fell in love with and this is who you are and that's why I expect you to stay going forward.
We want to spend the rest of our lives with each other so we definitely understand that we're going to grow, we're going to change our opinions are going to change our mindsets are going to change. So we actually learned to do not to say, we'll never do this in any circumstance because at first, when we got into a lifestyle we're like okay we were never going to do this already, this is totally not for us, we would never consider this. And then, as we went through our experiences and met more people and became more comfortable it's like well you know now actually see why people do this. Oh, I can understand why they're you know they wanted like that. So we started telling ourselves that we don't say no we say, not right now, so maybe later down the road, it will be something we'll consider. So because we've changed our we've grown, just in the last two years.
Leyna: Well, give me some examples what are some of those things that you just thought there's no way we would do that no way we'd be into that, and it turned out
Guest: Oh playing with single males.
Guest: That was a no no from the very beginning, at first, We're just like we will just swap with couples, because I'm pansexual, and I'm attracted to men, women, who trans men and women I mean it doesn't really matter to me it's about the energy that I have for that person. And so I can be with another woman and be just as happy as Turk with another woman. But, you know, he's just like hey if you're with another guy I mean what am I getting out of it because I'm straight so we did say in the beginning that we will not play with single males, and since that that has changed and we've actually, we've met some phenomenal single males that have helped me have an experience of having my first gang bang and it was just such a amazing tremendous time that I had all these guys that were caring about my you know my well being, making sure that I was okay and making sure that I was enjoying myself and Turk was right there. So I mean, it's something that we didn't think was going to happen and here we are, you know, two years into it and I'm like oh yeah I've been there, done that,
Leyna: wow, okay, I have to hear from Turk on this though.
Guest: Okay, okay. Oh what's that.
Leya: Well, the fact that most men would think there's no way they're gonna even if they're in the lifestyle now there's no way they're going to bring just a single male into it. Can you maybe go through that first experience and how you got to where you are now, where it's something you're actually into.
Guest: Yeah, I'd be glad to single males or looked at as, I guess, a lot of people shun them, but we got to learn the single males in the lifestyle, and these guys are great. I mean you have some guys that you know just it just want to have fun, just like you, but they're not married, and once I got to learn them and learn a couple of guys then I was like okay, this would be good.
As far as Irina. She gives me the freedom to do anything, and it's hard not to reciprocate that when with what she wants. So I want to give her everything she gives me everything, and then at the end of the night, we still come home and have each other. So there's nothing I could possibly do or see at a lifestyle a bit, that will make me go. I don't want to be able to know more, so she will always be my heart she will always come home to me. So when you're bringing the single males into a play session. Is it purely just Irene on that man you have no interaction with him at all, no interaction with him at all. Now I may be playing with another woman at the time, but it's never been a setting where it's just me not doing anything, and then Irina with a single male Yeah cuz if anything then I'll be playing with both of them at the same time. Yeah.
Leyna: Right. So, but then do you do, the male female MF M. You know what, how square am i i Not too long ago, realize there's a difference when you write M M F and MFM. Guest: Yes.
Leyna: Who knew apparently everyone else but me.
Guest: Oh, we didn't know about until we got in the lifestyle either. Yeah, you got to make sure that the two M's are not touching.
You got to put an F, between those M’s for me. Some guys, and like I said, I don't yuck anybody’s yum. If someone says this is what they like, that's fine. But for me, it has to be M F M.
Leyna: Okay, and and for Irina it could be like anything
Guest: It can literally be anything.
Leyna: Throw the whole alphabet in there you're cool.
Leyna: Alright so then when I compare you to other couples that I've talked to, who've been in it for quite some time, I mean I have talked to some newbies but so you guys have only been in it. Two years. Yeah, that's not a really long time being in that lifestyle right, but have you experienced a lot, you think, in that two years, compared to what some people limit themselves to?
Guest: Absolutely because I mean we meet people all the time that have been in lifestyle way longer than us and then we start comparing stories and exchanging experiences and they're like, Oh my god you guys have done this, you guys have been there y'all went here y'all done this just kind of like well yeah I mean we got into it, we're like, Hey, there's this whole world that we never been a part of so let's explore and let's have fun and we do have the freedom of getting to travel and, you know, So, it is easier for us to adjust our schedules and sometimes you will get an invitation last minute to go meet up with somebody and you know we are able to jump on that we know we don't have small children or anything that we are having to worry about, like, a lot of people do. So we consider ourselves very blessed to have that freedom so we're taking advantage of it right now because you just you never know what's gonna happen down the road we don't know what life is gonna be like a year from now, two years from now. So while we're in this and while we're able, we really tried to get the most out of it.
Leyna: Alright so you you wrote me a note and you told me about some of the things that you're into so you attend a lot of house parties. Of course the sex clubs.
What are these partial hotel takeovers.
Guest: So the partial hotel takeovers is when they really normally rent out one floor, and you know that on that entire floor you have nothing but Swingers, and they're all good as you'll stay there and most people gonna have their doors open and you just kind of go room to room, and you try to curl up, find what looks good to you, and you can stand there and watch or you can ask to join. If somebody says no, you just back up and you just continue watching or you can move on and until you find something that you want to be a part of. So that would be a partial hotel takeover.
Leyna: Okay and we're talking like like regular normal hotels.
Guest: Absolutely, yes.
Leyna: How how do you spot these things, Like if I was you know, if vanilla me walks into a hotel. How would I be able to spot like the big group of swingers?
Guest: They’d be naked. Basically.
Leyna: They're the ones with no clothes on.
Guest: They have no shame, they will walk around and introduce themselves button.
We look for a lot of pineapples pink flamingos. Those are big size especially within the last couple of years since it's been in abundance. So people, a lot of times will hang decorations on their doors to let people know that that's a swinger room, And you're welcome to come in. There go all out a lot of them will bring in different disco lights and just all kinds of different like somebody who even brought a fog machine in one time.
It's, they get creative. Because normally, it starts out as a party and like a local bar, and then, you know, they'll have some kind of identifier, whether it's a wristband or a necklace, and then they're, you know, during that event, you know that anybody with the wristbands or you know whatever the identifier is, is a part of the party, and then everybody kind of takes that party from a club over to the hotel.
Leyna: You know, I've heard about the pineapple thing I heard about the black ring thing this is the first time I'm hearing about flamingos those pink flamingos, that's a lifestyle thing?
Guest: Yes it is.
Flamingos, pineapples actually upside down pineapples Black rings gnomes, gnomes. Yes, you know, gnomes, and green light, and green lights are green light on your porch. Well, so I did some research on it, and I found out about the Pineapple. Pineapple started from wives going into the, going to grocery shop, and if they wanted to let someone know that they were a swinger, they would take a pineapple considered upside down in the shopping cart. Oh, and that's a telltale sign that that person was is a swinger.
Leyna: Interesting. And so now they've also added pink flamingos and gnomes. Yeah, okay, I'm you know I'm starting to have second thoughts about my 85 year old neighbor now,
Guest: It would probably normally be naughty gnomes like doing something questionable.
Leyna: Oh I see, okay,
Guest: and it's really more of a combination of everything so like if you see somebody and they just have a pineapple, okay, they may not be swingers. But if you see somebody and they have pineapple everything and flamingos everywhere and they're wearing black rings, then you kind of like, okay, you really go above and beyond.
Leyna: Okay, let's talk about some of the things that you're into, I mean, Because, now at this point. After hearing you guys talk, it sounds like hotel parties and sex clubs are like Tuesday night right. What other stuff. Are you into,
Guest: well we really do enjoy going to swinger resort and making like a whole weekend and the entire property is swinger friendly, so you never have to wear clothes you never have to, you know, do anything you can have sex anywhere on the property and you make a whole weekend out of it so that's one of our top, like favorite experiences, we I mean of course we have gone in a new state a whole weekend with people and that's always really great, especially when those people turn out to be amazing and then you end up becoming friends with them.
Leyna: Okay, now that you brought it up, I interviewed a couple yesterday and Seriously you guys, it's the weirdest thing to hear them talk and then to know that I had scheduled an interview with you guys.
And this happened not too long ago, but here we are in the middle of COVID, you meet this couple over Twitter, you chat for like, you know, A week and a half or so, yeah. Then you guys drive over 10 freaking hours. I mean,
Guest: Roadtrip, roadtrip!
Leyna: I mean that's a lot of effort to put into, you know, meeting some strangers yeah?
Guest: It is, it is. So we're really big on because of course at this point we have met a lot of people. We have had people you know hit us up on these swinger sites and we will, you know, kind of chat it up and then meet at an event, so we kind of get vibes from people about just how they are and how they're going to be. And when we finally started talking to them, all four of us of course got into a group chat, and everything was just flowing, their sense of humor there, the style of just how they talk was so compatible with ours, that we do and we just we couldn't get enough of the conversation, it wasn't even sexual all the time, you know, let me Of course we exchanged sexy pictures and we meal flirted with each other and we talk dirty to each other. But during the day the conversation continued and it was just so good and just so quality that you know if anything we weren't no me and Turk wre talking we're just kind of like, if anything, I know that we're gonna get there. And we will still be friends.
If nothing happens, we will have an incredible weekend with some like-minded people, you know, in the middle of COVID while we all have been sitting at home and none of us have been doing anything. And this will just be a weekend getaway to meet some cool fun people and just get to know them, and then if something happens, great and if it doesn't, it's okay too, because we knew that they were curious about the lifestyle and they were new, and so we just, we were like hey we'll come there and we'll have will answer all of your questions, whatever you want to know. We just want you guys to have a great introduction into the lifestyle,
Leyna: Let me ask you about newbies, having already been in the lifestyle and then when you meet newbies, are newbies a good thing. Are they like fresh meat newbies, or do, Do people in the lifestyle look upon newbies as I'd rather deal with someone who's kind of been in it and kind of set all the rules and boundaries and you know they're not going to have a problem in the middle of it or something.
Guest: Well, I still consider us newbies So
Guest: compared to some of the swing is that we've met their time and the lifestyle spans from seven to 15 to 20 to years of just doing this. As far as newbies, a lot experienced people don't like to deal with newbies because they're new, and they haven't seen the things that would make you, I guess jittery. Right, I don't know, and they're quick to have a lot of drama because they haven't settled in yet. And like I said we're only two and a half years and so we're actually considered movies ourselves. So I'm not saying that I know everything.
Leyna: But this couple that you drove over 10 hours to see were like complete newbies, they were like virgins. Yes, there were lifestyle virgins.
Guest: Would you know, they, they put a lot of research into it. I mean, they did really really good they and they were already on Twitter, having livestock overseas and rail we were listening to multiple podcasts, so they've already had a chance to consider a lot of very real questions, and because we knew that you know we could talk to them about anything when we got there, we were able to just sit down and go over everything, And I was just saying guys you know this is how it's gonna be and at some point you may still feel some type of way it's okay it's normal, so there was constantly checking in and that reassurance and hey, do we need to just you know kind of slow down, that's great. Hey, let's all go for it. That's great. So they're just so hungry for that experience that you'll, I feel like they did it in the best way that they could have done it.
Leyna: So tell me the story about, you know so you, you don't drive all this way you knock on the door, it what, how did it progress after that.
Guest: Well, they were ready to jump in, from the get go, I mean that like once we walked in, like, they were just like, Okay, you're here you're real, like this is really happening, but I mean of course like we wanted to get off the road we wanted to shower we wanted to freshen it up, you know, spending over 10 hours on the car. You don't feel sexy.
Guest: Leyna. Yeah, we got there, they had gifts. They had cards, yeah. They had our bedroom made up with chocolates on the pillows, we had, it was like a hotel in their house, It was very decked out so we felt warm and welcome from the first step into their house.
Leyna: It was like going to a bed and breakfast.
Guest: It really was. It was just like that and then that they got a massage table, and so they were like, alright, we'll give you both sensual massages to kind of help you relax, and we were like we're in, let's do this and so like once we finally got you know, washed off and fresh and we all sat down and kind of went over some few ground rules and some expectations and then they're like, Okay, you guys ready for your massages like let's do it. So, Turk got his massage and then as I was getting my massage. Of course Mr Sexton was giving me mine and then Turk and Mrs. Sexton came in and they all started rubbing me down, and it was incredible having three sets of hands on your naked body is just phenomenal sensation, and so it just kind of progressed from there everybody's rubbing everybody's touching and it was the best type of foreplay, you know, because the massage is of course, that's, that's like the top notch thing, and it just kind of progressed to a full on swap and everybody was in kind of intertwines and her and I were kissing and touching and, you know, we're all just kind of one big blob of humans.
It was just, it was, it was incredible. In the energy, and then that's really what it's about, because they were so into it, and we were so into it, like there was no hesitation and you could just tell everybody wanted the most out of it.
Leyna: Okay, hold on here. Full disclosure, Full disclosure, you forgot to mention the Viagra.
Guest: I did, I totally didn't even think about.
Leyna: Wait a second. So had you. I didn't know that that Viagra could also affect women did you know that.
Guest: I didn’t know that, but once I took it, I really didn't feel any difference. So I don't know how much it did for me personally, I'm not saying that it didn't do anything because obviously I was extremely turned on and excited, but at the same time, you know, When people are that good and that awesome, then yeah, I'll get turned on, just like that it's so it's so I don't really know how much the Viagra did for me.
Leya: What you're saying is they could have given you a placebo and it would have been the same
Guest: Yes, literally. Yeah.
Leyna: Okay. Anything else you want to tell me.
Oh, Turk and Irina. What about the edibles, the edibles.
Guest: So we had some really really good strong edibles, they have theirs we had ours so we swapped we compared made a very relaxing and very comfortable during the whole time.
I wind up fixing some of our famous hamburgers and grilling them. We sat down in the back and we had like a just good conversation, and it was great, it was just like old friends. Yeah, that's what it literally felt like it's like we've known them our whole lives and we just, you know, came to visit our friends for the whole weekend, even though we just met them but the vibe was definitely that we've known them forever.
Leyna: Nice. Um, so it sounds like you guys see yourselves doing this for as long as you can.
Guest: Oh absolutely. Oh yes, if one of you were to, because you remember you can't ever say never right. Yeah,
Leyna: if one of you was to, cuz remember you can’t ever say never , if one of you was to say…you know what I think I've had enough. But the other one still wants to do it, what happens then.
Guest: Oh, we kind of know off if you're sure about that. Yeah, absolutely, absolutely everything. Everything is a team effort. Yeah, The fun part of it is that we get to do it together, and we get to see each other be excited about meeting new people and extend the old getting to know new people, having sex with new people, if, if one person is no longer into it. That's it, like, because, ma, ma, Everything is Turk, that's it, that's my whole life. The best sex, I have on daily basis is with him, no matter how incredible that experience is, no one will ever talk. What he gives me the way he stimulates my mind, my body, everything in me I mean that he knows the deepest parts of my soul, I'm never gonna get that from somebody else, we have worked seven and a half years on this relationship I mean we did long distance, we have, we've gone through a lot to be where we are now together, and we respect each other for all the effort that we both have put in into our relationship, that, you know, to us, each other's happiness is the first priority, you know, our relationship with a 50-50 Our relationship is 100 100 We both constantly give everything to the other person and then we receive everything in return, Because my focus is Turk and his happiness, and in turn his focus is my happiness, so I don't have to worry about what I'm going to get out of something because he is constantly making sure that I'm getting the best experience of every single day, every single meet every single interaction. So hey, Leyna. Yeah. At this point,
Leyna: at this point, at this point you want to hang up and go have sex don't you?
Guest: Yes. We actually have a unicorn. Anyway, Even if we want to stop right now. I think my wife will be fulfilled because I probably got an experience that most guys would never get. So even if we stopped right now. I would be fulfilled, because that's just much more that I've gotten that the average person doesn't get.
Leyna: You guys have like lived a lifetime of sex in two years.
Guest: We, we're still crossing things off our bucket list.
Leyna: Nice. Do you have plans for later tonight or something. What's this talk of a unicorn I'm hearing.
Guest: Oh, we, we love unicorns we do I have some incredible friends and I just don't want to put anybody on the spot, because I'm sure some of them are going to listen to this later. And because I have friends who the most all of our friends, by the way, know that we're in the lifestyle, and that we're very sex positive so when any of our friends want to have an experience with a couple, they know that we are that safe couple that they can talk to and say hey I'm curious, I don't know if this is something I would like or not, you know, I've never done this before but I would like to do it with someone that I trust, and that I know that things aren't going to get weird after the fact. So we've had several of my friends, kind of, you know, talk to us about things and we've made things happen, because, of course, I really love helping people that I love, have new sexual experiences, so my friends have always been very open with me about their sex lives. And so when we became Swingers, it was just a normal conversation for me, like, oh by the way, it's Turk and I are now swingers and they're like, oh took you guys long enough, so.
Leyna: So what you're saying is you. You guys foster unicorns.
Guest: Kind of.
Leyna: That's Turk and Irina, thank you so much for talking to us. In fact, since that episode was recorded. The two of them have tied the knot so they're, they're stuck with each other now, and that's the way they like it, so congratulations on your new marriage, wishing you many many years of happiness and lots of sex. Okay. By the way, you can find them Turinalifestyle on both Twitter, Instagram, and only fans. Next time on Consenting Adults, we talked to a couple of young Swingers, who found a little problem entering the lifestyle.
Guest: we started to realize, once we started looking into the community and maybe getting up on websites that were more dedicated to non-monogamous relationships, people weren't really interested in meeting us being friends with benefits, because we hadn't established a strong foundation in our, in our relationship.
Leyna: So, what did they do? Find out next time on Consenting Adults.
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